From Victim to Victor: Ditching the Defeatist Mindset

We are all faced with something that will change the course of our lives at some point. We all suffer through some sort of tragedy, big or small; it’s all relative.

⭐️That is when we have to decide: Will I become a victim, or will I become 𝗘𝗠𝗣𝗢𝗪𝗘𝗥𝗘𝗗?

If you go through life thinking: “𝑊ℎ𝑦 𝑖𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑠 ℎ𝑎𝑝𝑝𝑒𝑛𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑚𝑒?” Then it’s time to make a change! That’s a 𝐯𝐢𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐦 𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐭𝐲. You’re repeatedly thinking of yourself as the victim when in fact, you can choose of what will happen next.

⭐️Instead of perceiving yourself as the victim, you have to change your perspective: What can I learn from this? How can I 𝗦𝗣𝗜𝗡 this into a positive? How can I use this to help me get through the next obstacle?

Using your experience as a teaching moment instead of wallowing in self-pity can set your life on a much different course. Instead of life “happening to you,” you can choose what happens in your life. It means the next time you’re faced with something tragic or even minimally inconvenient, your ability to handle it will be much greater.

⭐️Let me rephrase and repeat the sentiment I started with 𝗪𝗘 𝗔𝗥𝗘 𝗔𝗟𝗟 𝗙𝗔𝗖𝗘𝗗 𝗪𝗜𝗧𝗛 𝗦𝗢𝗠𝗘𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗧𝗛𝗔𝗧 𝗪𝗜𝗟𝗟 𝗖𝗛𝗔𝗟𝗟𝗘𝗡𝗚𝗘 𝗨𝗦 𝗜𝗡 𝗟𝗜𝗙𝗘.

It’s okay to feel sad. It can take time to process and feel your emotions, but It is 𝗨𝗣 𝗧𝗢 𝗬𝗢𝗨  how it will affect you from now on.

You don’t have to wait around for life to happen ‘to you.’ 𝗬𝗢𝗨 𝗛𝗔𝗩𝗘 𝗧𝗛𝗘 𝗣𝗢𝗪𝗘𝗥 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝗙𝗢𝗥 𝘆𝗼𝘂. You can decide which direction it’s going to go.

Don't allow yourself to be the victim. You deserve better 💕

❓Have you ever felt like a victim? How did you change your view❓

I would love to know!

Love,

Jess 💕

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