Stuck? The Secret to Real Change Is Closer Than You Think!

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” - Dr. Wayne Dyer

Have you ever noticed how, regardless of what is happening in your life, the world continues to happen around you?

Life is just a series of transitions. No matter what you’re planning or striving for, things change. And even with the best-laid plans, there will always be things beyond your control.

You can’t plan for everything, no matter how hard you try. This is why learning to let go and let whatever will be is vital. Worrying about any and everything that might get in your way won’t help you, nor can you predict your reaction.

Before I was injured, I know I would have thought that I would rather die than live my life in a wheelchair. Being disabled was not an option. It was no way to live, nor did I have the strength to live that way.

I learned pretty quickly that I WAS WRONG. I had no idea what my reaction would be because I had never been in that situation. I could make all the assumptions I wanted, but I didn’t really know.

My life changed in the blink of an eye - literally. I was transformed into someone I assumed was a fate worse than death. I would be forced to live life in a body that felt like it belonged to someone else.

I would have to face my own fear. I would have to face the realization that many people also thought they would rather be dead than confined to life in a wheelchair. I would have to rethink almost every plan I had for my future to accommodate what was now my new life.

IT WAS HARD. IT IS STILL HARD.

BUT IT WAS POSSIBLE.

I came to understand that the quality of my life depended on my ability to accept myself, NOT my disability. It was more about what I believed I could do and become. It was about how I viewed myself and the possibilities ahead.

I could have just as readily accepted my fate and a lifetime of self-hatred, misery, and inability to do anything because of my disability.

Instead, I changed. I changed the way I viewed myself. I changed the way I spoke to myself. I changed the way I reacted to my environment and those around me.

Yeah, being disabled sucks, don’t get me wrong, but it doesn’t mean my life can’t be pretty awesome anyway.

In reality, it was just another transition. It was a wrench in my plans (be it a big fucking wrench) that I had to stop and rethink. I had to rearrange, rethink, reorganize, and replan.

But aren’t we always doing that anyway?

Change becomes difficult when you don’t allow yourself to see alternatives - when you put your energy and focus into the problem instead of the solution. This is not because the situation is impossible but because you’re unwilling to adapt.

With the right mindset, the willingness to adjust, and the desire to live a life I could be proud of, I was able to completely change my perspective.

Anyone can do it. You just have to be willing.

Love,

Jess 💕

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